At the same time, I consider myself incredibly fortunate to have Someone in my life who eradicated the consequences of those mistakes. and bad deeds. Thanks to Him, I don't have to live with guilt. Instead, I can live in gratitude. But the point of this blog post isn't really to share my faith.
What is the point? A suggestion: why not try living your life by being nice to people? Act like you are delighted to see them, even if you aren't. Compliment people. Let them go first, ahead of you. Make unexpected (and undeserved) little random acts of kindness a way of life. Express joy in the accomplishments of others, even if your core reaction is jeolousy. Congratulate them on that promotion for which you worked so hard. Click "Like" on that Facebook post, even if the poster is bragging. Give surprise gifts, picked out especially for the recipient. Let that poor schmuck in the wrong lane with his blinker on get in ahead of you in traffic, even if you are already late. Listen instead of speaking. Do something nice for someone who has never, ever done a nice thing for you.
It may sound silly or trite, but being nice to others is a pretty good credo. First of all, in the majority of cases, it will pay an immediate dividend. It may bring an immediate smile to the recipient's face. Or, it might simply warm your heart. Even better- perhaps the recipient pays it forward and it ultimately crosses the nation or circles the globe.
You might argue that being nice is too much work. And it feels so much better to do otherwise- gloat, get angry, hate, be jealous, or criticize- all of the bad stuff. Don't buy into this lie. It actually feels better to be nice. It may not at first. While the bad stuff may have a short-term good feel to it, it is actually akin to the effect of caffeine or sugar on your body. There's a quick rush, followed by a downer that is lower than you were in the first place. Being nice all the time will eventually overwhelm your character, it will take over. And like a good disease (if there is such a thing), it spreads. Being nice to others will ultimately become your norm.
Give it a try. Try it for a day and see what happens. If you like it, try it for a week. Before you know it, you may very well find yourself looking at the nicest person you know- in your mirror.