I spend as much time with my family as a I can. I take my girls roller skating every weekend. We aren't even talking about roller blades.... I'm talking about old-fashioned quad skates; complete with a disco ball and video games. I'm sure I look pretty silly out there (and have seen a few snickers as I roll to "La Vida Loca"). Skating just isn't that cool. But the joy I get from just being with Meredith and Lauren is really hard to put into words- I'm tearing up right now as I write these.
I go to work every day. My job is interesting and challenging. But I'm
not saving people on death row. chances are good that after I'm gone, it will be business as usual. My imprint in that marketplace will quickly fade. But if the value I created while on the clock provided a decent return on my employer's investment, then I'm satisfied.
I know people who take pride in the self-descriptive, "I don't live to work." Their priority is on other things, many of which are cool. I pay my taxes without a lot of "creative" deductions. I don't have a problem paying my fair share. I've worked most of my life and have had a full-time job since I was 15- I've been a busboy, a bag boy, a COO, a
lawyer and everything in between. This probably makes me a bit unsympathetic to people who prioritize on self-actualization, rather than earning a living. Self-actualization is, by definition, cool. Earning a wage isn't.
I've written a few books. My Amazon page says that I "write the kinds of books that [I] would like to read." It's true. When I was in law school, as it all unfolded, I thought "I sure wish there had been a book to decode all of the mystery." So, I wrote one. Same thing for my Christian experience with "The Reasonable Person." But I'm no John Grisham. And I'm no Joel Osteen.
We go to church every Sunday. Not because I particularly enjoy the atmosphere (this is the Bible Belt, after all). We do it because we want our girls to learn about God, and His love for them. And church is still the best place to learn that, despite what you might have heard.
I'm not really partisan. I admire Richard Nixon for his China initiative. But a also admire Bill Clinton for what he did for the deficit. Both men had their failings. But I will never stereotype either one of them. Judging by the nightly commentators, being non-partisan isn't cool. It's cool to demonize the other side. If they don't agree with you, they are wrong, stupid and evil.
As I get older, I've become much more reflective about what my life means. It's what motivated me to write this post, I suppose. Sadly, I don't think I'll ever be cool.
I'll just have leave that to other people.